How to win friends and influence people

Six ways to make people like you

Rule 1: Become genuinely interested in other people.
" Do this and you will be welcome anywhere."
"You can make more fiends in two months by becoming interested in other people than you can in two years by trying to get other people interested in you."
"Ask questions to other people, questions that they would enjoy answering."

I think this is a good way to make friends because talking about yourself all the time bothers people alot. We should be interested in others because maybe they might need a friends and we can be there for them. that would be the right thing to do. We should always listen instead of always being " me,myself, and i". We should care for others. Showing that you care can make them trust you and it can be a really good friendship.

Rule 2: Smile
"Actions speak louder than words, and a smile says, "I like you. You make me happy. Im glad to see you."
"You dont feel like smiling? Then force yourself to smile"
"It creates hapiness in the home, fosters good will in a business, and is the countersign (witness or indication) of friends."

Smiling is good way to make friends. Nobody likes being with a sad person all the time. People like to have fun. Giving a smile shows how your a happy person and people can talk to you. Not smiling and having an attitude doesnt lead you to anything. It just makes you not only be lonley but feel lonley. Smiling is a great way to show other people you care because your happy around them. Having a smile yourself doesn't only help you and how you feel, it can also put a smile on someone else.

Rule 3: Remember Names
"A man's name is to him the sweetest and most important sound in any language."
" If you dont remember names, you are headed for trouble."
Remembering peoples names is a way to make friends becasue it makes people feel good that you know them and can count on you. Forgetting just makes you look rude and people will forget about you too.

How to remember names:
To remember names we can speak up and ask again for their name if you didnt get it the first time.
We can repeat the name
We can spell it out
Find something in teh person that can help you remember the name.

Rule 4: Be a good listener. encourage others to talk about themselves. 
"If you aspire to be a good conversionalists, be an attentive listener"
" Remember that the man you are talking to is a hundred times more interested in himself and his wants and his his problems than he is in you and your problems."
This is very important because its a great way to make friends and also keep them. Listening to your friends can make them trust you even more.


5 ACTIVE LISTENING STEPS
 - stay focused
-dont judge
-really listen
-allow for periods of silence
-repeat words to them
-understand the emotions behind the words

Rule 5: Tak in terms of the other man's interest
" The royal road to a man's heart is to talk to him about the things he treasures the most."
This rule is important because it gives the person a chance to talk about themselves like what they are interestede in. We should make sure to always listen and never judge and what they like. People can share similar interest and that how people can connect and make friends.



Rule 6: Make the other person feel important - and do it sincerely
"The desire to be important in the deepest urge in human nature "

Making someone feel important is a great way to make friends. We should make the person feel special by being interested in them. Make them share anything with you so they know you care.We should make sure to always listen and never judge and what they like. People can share similar interest and that how people can connect and make friends.Caring about your friends can make them trust you even more. Making someone feel important doesn't only help you and how you feel, it can also put a smile on someone else.

Reflection:
All of these ways help you make friends the right way. What i think about these 6 ways is that they are a great way to make friends and keep. i feel these ways should be for everyone and not just for friends or to make friends. We should do these all the time. I feel like the smiling one is the most important because having a simle can make someone's day and make yourself feel even better. 

" The six attitudes of high achievers"
John R. Noe


High Achievers.......
1. Make no small plans

Your life will be no better than the plans you make and the action you take. You are the architect and builder of your own life, fortune, destiny.

Alfred A. Montapert

tHIS WAY IS TRYING TO SAY THAT WE SHOULDNT MAKE SMALL PLANS IN LIFE. WE SHOULD ALWAYS GO FOR THE BIG THINGS IN LIFE NO MATTER HOW LONG OR HOW HARD IT IS. iF WE WANT TO BE SOMEONE IN LIFE, WE SHOULD NEVER GIVE UP ON THE BIG GOALS WE WANT TO ACHIEVE. WHAT I WILL DO TO APPLY TO THIS NEW ATTITUDE IS IN EVERYTHING I DO, I WILL ALWAYS CHOOSE THE BIG PLANS AND NEVER GIVE UP. I SHOULD STAY POSITIVE AND NEVER SAY ITS IMPOSSIBLE.
4. Are willing to risk failure

"He who is not courageous enough to take risks will accomplish nothing in life."
This attitude can help us in life because if we dont take risks we will never leanr from and never achive the things we want. If we are to scared to achieve will never accomplish anyhting. We have to take risks and not be scared of failure or else we will regret what we didnt do. Its better to try and fail than to never try and be curious about what would have happened. If we fail we can learn from and then in the future we can do it again but in a better way to have better results. We can always learn from failure. For example, in cheer in didnt want to be a flyer because i was to scared to go up there, but now i keep trying to improve my stunts.. yes i fail and fall many times but to achieve my improvements i should keep trying and learn from my falls to make my stunts better.

5. Are teachable
“Be willing to be a beginner every single morning.”

this attitude is positive. We need to be a ble to be teached to, to learn many things in life. If we always thing were right, that will not take us anywhere. We can always learn from other people with experience so we wont make the same mistake. We will always failin things but being teachable can always make you achieve them. Being taught isnt a bad thing like some people say. Being thought doesn't make you weak, it makes you stronger because we're learning new things.

6. Have heart
High achievers have a big heart. To achieve your goals, we are suppose to have a heart for others. For example, we can be nice and kind to other people. Theres nothing wrong with being nice a respectful to others. If we have a good heart that means he have a good attitude, meaning we are able to accomplish many things with others without conflict. High achievers just simply have a big heart towards everything.

Reflection: What I think about these six attitudes is that they are pretty good for high achievers. I know i will try to have these attitudes towards everything. because i will not accomplish anything with the opposite. Im going to be a able to be teached at, i will have a heart towards everyhting, i will not be scared of failing. I know i will have to pick myself up , try again and never give up. My plans will be huge and i will never give up until i achieve them.

Way to be 

 9 ways to be happy and make something of your life

1. Be grateful

 "I believe if you keep your faith, you keep your trust, you keep the right attitude, if you're grateful, you'll see God open up new doors."

Joel Osteen

Being grateful opens alot of doors for us. If we have a bad attitude about what people do for us or what we accomplish, we can end up alone. Being grateful for your family and friends will never feel like your alone. you will get closer to them and if your not grateful, it means you are pushing it away. Even being grateful for the smallest things feels good. Being grateful brings happiness.

2. Be smart 

“Understanding is the first step to acceptance, and only with acceptance can there be recovery.”

This quote shows how you have to accept what you did. if it was wrogn or it was right. you have to accept what you did and move on.  Move forward and not back., we would achieve our goals. Accepting what we did is being smart.  If you did something bad dont go back and do it again for revenge, be smart and move on. Be smart to what you choose for the future.. i would be smart and not repeat the same mistakes i made before. i would move forwalrd in like if accept everything i did but never do it again.

3. Be involved in good works

"The best preparation for good work tomorrow is to do good work today."

Elbert Hubbard

What i think about being involved in good work is being able to achieve your goals out of it. Joining clubs, activities, sports etc means you are doing the smart thing. its the smart things to do because we can be in other bad things like going out with friends and smoking or drinking, that's choosing the wrong. We should be joining things that help the world and help ourselves. We can achieve many things by working together too. if we want to be something good in life, we should be doing good works now that lead us there, I will join more clubs and do better work to help me go up in life in a good way.

4. Be clean 

"Be strong in body, clean in mind, lofty in ideals."
James Naismith


What i think about this way is that it can be described in many ways. "Being clean" doesn't mean not wearing piercings or not drinking alcohol etc. you can do all of those but in a smart responsible way. Being clean is expressing yourself safely and nicely. There's a limit to this though. We cant be getting tattoos that are bad like something disrespectful. There's always a limit but there's always a way to express yourself too. Nothings wrong with piercings or tattoos or a way to have fun like alcohol. we can have fun without alcohol too though.being clean in  ind is different though. we have to think clean and not choose the wrong always choose the right decision.. the clean decision.

5. Be true

"It is only the great hearted who can be true friends. The mean and cowardly, Can never know what true friendship means."

Being true means that your honest to yourself and others. Being true can lead you to choosing the right. It can make you achieve your goals in a non cheating way. It can also help you feel confident about yourself, because we know that we are being honest with ourselves. Being true to other people like your friends well make them trust you, if your a fake, you will just end up alone. Never pretend to be someone else your not, it will just cause problems and that's not being true to yourself. Something never comes out from pretending to be someone your not. What i would do to make this way a way is i would be true to myself for everything i do. I will not do or pretend i am someone else just to please people. I'll be true to who i am.

6. Be Positive

"Work hard for what you want because it won't come to you without a fight. You have to be strong and courageous and know that you can do anything you put your mind to. If somebody puts you down or criticizes you, just keep on believing in yourself and turn it into something positive."

Being positive can help achieve anything you want. if your always thinking negative, negative stuff will happen to you. If you have a positive mind and always thing about the good things that can happen, it pretty much happen. Never give up on what you want to and always do with a smile on your face. For example, in cheer leading , im having a hard time in a stunt and im always scared of doing it wrong. im always thinking negatively. I know i should be positive, never be scared and never give up . I will always be positive on everything i do, that will help me achieve many things and help me choose the right.

7. Be Humble

"Success comes to those who dedicate everything to their passion in life. To be successful, it is also very important to be humble and never let fame or money travel to your head."

Being humble means not showing off what you have to the low. Helping others at  their problems without anything in return. This picture shows how we can work hard and achieve our goals but never show off. We can be proud of ourselves without having to show it off to the whole world. Being humble means to always work hard, be kind, and never give up. For example, i will stay humble related to my schools work. i Will never give up until i get to be in the gold list and they stay humble to stay there.

8. Be still

"Learning how to be still, to really be still and let life happen - that stillness becomes a radiance."

This means to always choose the right. Being still can help stay in the right track and never choose the wrong. We always have to see what the future has for us and be still and then make the right decision about it. For example, we have to be smart at what comes to us. We need to choose the right to accomplish our goals. Being still is also letting life happen, like let things come to you and don't be scared of facing them. Be still, let it happen and then learn from it.

9. Be prayerful

Reflection: What i think about the 9 ways is that they are pretty good ways to be happy and make something of my life. Following all this can help achieve many goals and never regret that we didn't. These ways are a smart way to be happy in life, they make you choose the right and always accomplish things you thought you were impossible. What i will do to commit to this is i will follow them and think about them whenever i'm in a hard or simple situation. I would also like to the 9 ways because it will make me a better person to other people, to school, and mainly life. 

Personal Development Attribute

Commitment

the state or quality of being dedicated to a cause, activity.

Individual commitment to a group effort - that is what makes a team work, a company work, a society work, a civilization work.

This qoute means that if we commit to something in a group it would come out better than just alone. commmiting to woroking together is team work. i  can make everything work when working together and putting commitment into it. For example, in cheer practice i have to commit to do better in my stunts and do what im suppose so the stunt can come out better with my commitment and with my groups commitment. 

Personal Development Quote

" The key to freedom is obedience. The more obedient we are, the more freedom we have."

Obedience

                                                                                              

This quote is trying to say that if we obey ww will get freedom. In other words, if we do what we're suppose to do and do them right, it will lead us to achieving our goals. Just follow the rules and always choose the right for the right path. Our future will be great if we choose the right and obey. This quote relates to my 100 life planning goals because using obedience i will accomplish more of my goals and get to right "Victory" on more of them. . 

Personal Development Attribute

A SMILE

A smile is a facial expression formed primarily by flexing the muscles at the sides of the mouth

This quote explains that in life there's going to be reasons to cry but tomoorw can be a better day and we should smile about it. we have to show life that theres also reasons to smile.

 

Personal Development Attribute

Courage

 

The ability to do something that frightens one.

Courage is bravery. its to confront something, to show that your brave and will do anythings thats right to accomplish your goals. Its taking risks of any type to achieve your goals. the difference is to take risk but doing them by choosing the right. Courage is moving forward instead of back. For example, if i want to achieve my cheer goals. i should have courage and not fear of falling down from a stunt. I should keep trying.

911

The September 11 attacks were a series of four coordinated terrorist attacks by the Islamic terrorist group al-Qaeda on the United States on the morning of Tuesday, September 11, 2001. The attacks consisted of suicide attacks used to target symbolic U.S. landmarks.The destruction of the World Trade Center and nearby infrastructure caused serious damage to the economy of Lower Manhattan and had a significant effect on global markets, closing Wall Street until September 17 and the civilian airspace in the U.S. and Canada until September 13. People then rebuild and was done by 2006. The center is now done and beautiful and has a memorial for all the people who were killed that day. Before all of this they had found a bag of the hijackers. The Fbi then knew about the 19 hijackers who part of it and went to look for them. 

My first memory about the attack was when i was at school. I guess it was that day and people were talking about it and i wanted to know more about it.

My reflection: I think was a really sad day for a lot of people and the people who caused choosed the wrong. I feel really bad for the people in the buildings and ther family members. everytime i see videos of the attack i feel really bad. 

"Decisions Determine Destiny"

This means that the decisions you make determine your destiny or future. If  you make bad decisions, you will get a bad result but if you make a good decision, good things will come your way. This relates to my 110 life plannning goals because if i make a bad decision and my goals are bad. im pretty sure my destiny will be bad. If my goals are good i know i will achieve all i want to do and my destiny will be good.

Caring

Displaying kindness and concern for others.

“Don’t sacrifice yourself too much, because if you sacrifice too much there’s nothing else you can give and nobody will care for you.”

CARING IS SOMETHING ALOT OF POEOPLE PRETEND TO GIVE.  CARING FOR SOMEONE MEANS BEING THERE FOR THEM NO MATTER WHAT. CARING IS HELPING OTHER PEOPLE. 

Personal Development Attribute 

Boldness

not hesitating or fearful in the face of actual or possible danger or rebuff; courageous and daring: a bold hero. not hesitating to break the rules of propriety; forward; impudent: He apologized for being so bold as to speak to the emperor 

" The doors will be opened to those who are bold enough to knock"

Being bold is good because you can accomplish your golas with it;

Personal Development Attribute

Attitude

a settled way of thinking or feeling about someone or something, typically one that is reflected in a person's behavior

"Two men look out the same prison bars; one sees mud and the other stars." 

-Frederick Langbridge

 

This quote shows how these two men have different attitudes. One sees the bad (mud) in the situation and the other sees the good (stars). If we have the a good attitide we  will always see the good and do great things with your life. If you always see the bad and have a bad attitude you will always bring the negative towards you.

Personal Development Quote

Persistence

" A man without a goal is a ship without a rudder."

Thomas Carlyle

I think persistence relates to this quote because persistence is like not giving up no matter how diffucult. For example, my classes are pretty hard this year and i must have persistence to pass them all. I should not give up because it will pay off later in the future like how the picture shows us. We should never give on what we want but always choosing the RIGHT. This quote states that without a goal, theres no point like the ship with rudder. Theres no point of trying if you dont know what your going for. This relates to our Life Planning Goals because theres no point to try if we dont have goals. 

Personal Development Attribute

Assertiveness

  Assertiveness is the quality of being self-assured and confident without being aggressive. In the field of psychology and psychotherapy, it is a learnable skill and mode of communication.

" Assertiveness is not what you do, it's who you are"

This quote means that assertiveness is being confident and bringing up what you think about a topic. Being confident of your thoughts and doing what you like and just being yourself. Also, doing what you want in a nice, not aggressive way.

Life Planning Goals

1.Ride the 10 craziest roller coasters in the world

2. Go to Hawaii

3. See a volcano

4. Go skydiving

5. Meet my grandma

6. Go to Mexico

7. Milk a cow

8. Be in a movie

9. Learn how to swim

10. Swim with dolphins

11. Go to college

12. Go to univesal studios for horror nights

13. Pass this class

14. Pass all my classes this year and next year

15. Graduate highschool

16.Go hiking

17. Go camping

18. Learn how to a backflip

19. Get better at my stunts

20. Learn all the school cheers

21. Sleep all day

22. Go back to gymnastics

23. Get along with all the cheer girls

24. Learn how to drive

25. Get a car

26. Learn how to use the bus

27. Eat seafood

28. Pass my AP classes

29. Talk to my ex bestfriend

30. To be a ctr person

31. To always be a ctr person

32. Win my brother at mario kart

Personal Development Attribute

Accountability

The fact or condition of being accountable,responsibillity.

-"Actions toward or involving others that reflect the integrity of the person you want to be"

"At the end of the day we are accountable to ourselves - our success is a result of what we do"

This quote represents accountability because this word has meaning of responsibility.If you want to be someone you got to show others what you need to do to become it. For example, if i want to be someone or do something i like i have to be responsible and do what i'm suppose to.